Nothing is both as hard and as rewarding as motherhood is.
And for the life of me, I have never expected motherhood to change me, in my entirety.
Gazing into their souls, I have looked deep into my own, and fall on my knees for help from God alone.
Are you overwhelmed too by the complexities of life?
I struggled massively in my early years, and I think, I was floundering because I had no focal point. And when our expectations are unrealised, our emotional equilibrium erupts.
Media today will try to shape a picture of success for the woman that is based upon attaining personal happiness.
But no personal hobbies, exciting careers or wonderful relationships can fulfil the sense of security or significance our hearts deeply desire. Everyday we are bombarded with the messages that dictate what we should do and who we should be. But no questions are ever asked of what our children, the next generation, will become.
Are children truly a reward from heaven, or are they mere inconveniences on earth, encumbrances to what a woman can potentially become?
When we succumb to the idea that we can have it all at the same time, we miss being completely engaged and being vibrantly alive with the task of fashioning little souls and imprinting tender lives today.
Children are often counted as hinderances, and the light of a woman’s life fading away under the drudgery of what motherhood entails. But what if motherhood is not a blackhole and children are not a distraction of the more important job, but the most important job itself? (CS Lewis)
What if, motherhood is a calling and a career, and that every child is important, and full of godly potentials?
What will happen when we shift our paradigms and place children and the training of them over and above our desires for happiness, and convenience?
Sometimes we undermine the work that goes into making a home blossom and the effort it requires to organise a household, in the name of our “freedom” and “independence”. But that sends us looking high and low to understand what’s missing in our family and in our culture today.
What if we place our desires for recognition, fulfilment, and promotion, and the beauty of perfectly manicured nails, and the pleasure of expensive holidays and the pride of completely clean homes at the Cross, and let our direction and perspectives find clarity from God alone?
Sometimes we may even wonder why seeming to have everything and doing everything puts us at a loss of really knowing who we are and what we’re meant to do. The truth is that these voids can only be filled as we lay down your life, that is the way to build a family. That having children is designed for our holiness, not happiness. That by the sacrifice of our lives, a new generation is being invested into and built up to be. And this is beautiful, and highly rewarding, and deeply satisfying.
Oh yes, we women can surely have it altogether, maybe not just at the same time, but definitely over a lifetime. But that having it back comes as a result of giving it up in the first place.
“Motherhood is romanticised, marginalised and scandalised by a culture gone amuck, but biblical motherhood is strikingly simple and sane.”
Society today would tell us that we can easily relegate the task of parenting to others, and they tell women that the drudgery of children and home will leave us feeling unfulfilled and unrewarded. But as I am slowly learning, that motherhood is both a calling and a career, and it’s not merely about staying at home or working outside, but taking dominion in your spheres of life and running with God’s vision.
Motherhood is both sweat and strength, tears and thrill, exhaustion and exhiliration, trial and triumph. And there is hope for this home and we don’t have to feel defeated.
So you can mingle faith and passion, and believe that God’s got your back.